And did you know that 85% of people would rather be in a bad relationship than not be in a relationship at all?

That’s a scary statistic, don’t you think?

We often feel stuck or confused because we’re missing information.  Receiving that information requires us to ask a question first, so if you’re not in the relationship that you want, have you asked questions about it?  According to Gary Douglas, founder of Access Consciousness, when you ask a question, you allow the Universe to open doors for you that never existed before.  :-)  How awesome is that?

Whether you’re in a bad relationship or no relationship at all right now, the questions that you may need to ask are around your first love.  To help you understand why and how you can do that, I’ve written this blog post for that purpose.

Your first love is far more powerful than you give it credit for.  The way that first love unfolds and the way it ends have effects that can last years.  It affects how you feel about yourself, what you expect of yourself, how valuable you feel, and what you’re able to generate and receive in your life.

Do you still recall your first love? Most people do.  And many of those who do, dismiss it. 

Love relationships should not be dismissed no matter how long or short they are.  Because they are Divine assignments, they are always significant.  Some will “feel” more significant than others depending on the length and depth of the relationship, but they are all significant in that they teach you something about yourself, expand your experience with love, communication, boundaries, and power, and often confirm or change your existing beliefs.

On an emotional level, when you end a relationship, you’re less affected by it than when your partner ends the relationship because when your partner ends it, you’re likely to experience feelings of rejection and/or abandonment, lack of worthiness, and lack of lovability.  If these feelings are repressed, you end up paying the price in your future relationships in 1 of 2 ways.  You either attract partners who have a habit/pattern of rejecting or abandoning you, or you live in fear of being rejected or abandoned.

What does “living in fear of being rejected or abandoned” look like? Usually, it takes the form of sabotaging a relationship very early on…nipping the fear in the bud…before you get hurt.  How many times have you done that?  How many regrets do you have about relationships that you didn’t get to explore fully?

Either way, you’re left unhappy in love.

Every emotion, feeling, thought, and action that you have or experience is encoded in your energy field and in your cells.  Just because you’re not consciously thinking about a past relationship, this doesn’t mean that it isn’t affecting your life and the quality of your relationships in the present.

Take a look at your life, and assess how satisfied you are with the different areas: love, money/finances, career, personal growth, professional growth, health, etc.  If you’re struggling in one or more of these areas, you may be holding on to old feelings, old pain, and old points of view about relationships and about yourself.  You’d be surprised how often you hold on to the old without consciously being aware of it.

To create a significant shift in these “stuck” areas, I recommend that you get an Akashic Records reading because this is what these readings have been doing for my clients…

“The Akashic Records reading has been very beneficial! I mostly appreciated the insights on self-reflection.  I believe much of the feedback I somehow knew, but forgot about.  Most important to me was how I truly let go of my feminist origin.  I had built a WALL around myself, wasn’t accepting and wasn’t receiving.  Realizing this again allowed me to open up to a very dear person to my heart, my husband.  I can’t tell you or explain to you how I currently see him.  I see every honest, nice, warm, giving and gentle aspect of him that I earlier took for granted, and then dismissed altogether.

 From the heart, and with a deep breath, a very warm Thank You.

I’m looking forward to having another session for further clarity.”

 ~ R., Distribution Manager

“I first noticed a calmness which was new to me. After that, I started to notice the shift in my purpose where now I am focused and my “‘new me’ sense of purpose” is guiding me. I am much more at peace with me. I am less needy (significantly so) in respect to my perceived pressing need for a relationship. By that I mean, me being in pursuit of a relationship.  I’m more calm and at ease with myself, and I’m more confident and have a greater sense of assuredness with my new business. Yes, overall a big change in my psychic space. 

I have been busy yet very energized and not tired.  

Thanks so much for this. ”

 ~ A. M., Entrepreneur

Is now YOUR time?  If it is, this is your chance to TAKE ACTION and release those stuck areas so that they can MOVE AGAIN.

To learn more about the Akashic Records readings, email me at reem@reemshibel.com.

If you’re not ready to take action but want to learn more, download your FREE copy of the Love Assessment here.

Wishing you a year of magical love,

The Heart Mentor

The container is not the same thing as the content.  The container is the Tupperware or the wallet or the syringe.  The content is the food, the money, or the vaccine.  You wouldn’t get the container if you didn’t need it to hold the content.  It’s the same with love and marriage.  Why would you ask for a marriage or a relationship when you don’t have the love yet?  Find LOVE, then ask for the RELATIONSHIP, and after that, ask for the MARRIAGE.  

What you’re saying verbally is not as important as what you’re vibrating emotionally and energetically because the Energy Grid that delivers to you what you’ve asked for does nothing more than read your energetic vibration.  The Energy Grid doesn’t negotiate or argue with you.  It simply gives you what you’re asking for VIBRATIONALLY.  If you’re asking for a marriage, but you’re vibrating “fear of commitment,” you’re not going to get the marriage.  If you’re asking for love, yet you’re vibrating “I’m not lovable,” you’re not going to get the love.  If you’re asking for a relationship, but you’re vibrating “I’m desperate and lonely,” you’re not going to get the relationship.

I can tell you with 100% certainty that your emotional/energetic vibration is far more powerful than your verbal vibration.  Shift how you’re feeling and what you’re open to receiving, and you’ll create the relationship you want.

There are many myths about relationships/marriage out there, and although none of them are true, you’re conditioned from a young age to believe most if not all of them.

Myth #1: Living happily ever after

If you lived happily ever after, there’d be nothing for you to look forward to…nothing to work for, nothing to achieve, and nothing to grow into.

Love and relationships are your vehicles for growth.  Once a relationship has taken you as far as it can, it WILL dissolve even if you continue to externally PRETEND that you’re in a relationship…what is left is the SHELL.

Myth #2:  Love hurts.

Love doesn’t hurt.  If it hurts, then it’s NOT love.  It’s a lesson.  I’ve said this before, and I’m saying it again.  When you ask for true love, you’ll go through a few relationships first that will prepare you for true love.

Very few people are born READY for that true and evolved love.

Love doesn’t hurt, but relationships DO require work, and laziness is the poison that kills a relationship.

Myth #3:  There are no good men out there. OR All the good ones are taken.

There are plenty of good men out there.  I’ve come across many who were not only good but also available.  However, not every good man out there is going to be a compatible match for you or you for him.  Is every dress at the mall a good fit for you? I think not.

For a relationship to work long-term, there has to be compatibility on all levels (mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual) and in all major areas (values and priorities).

Part of asking for love is knowing what you value and prioritize…and NOT changing these values and priorities to fit into his life.

Myth #4: If I change enough, he’ll love me.

If he doesn’t love you, nothing you do will make A DIFFERENCE, and everything you do will make NO DIFFERENCE.

Be yourself!  If your behaviour is not working for you, change it for YOU and not for him.

If he doesn’t love you, he’s not the one for you.

Myth #5: I can change him.

The only person you can change is YOURSELF.  The only person you have control over is YOURSELF.  Change yourself, and he will automatically shift with you, or he will walk out of your life.  Either way, you win because you either have love, or you’re free to love again.

Myth #6: If he would just decide what he wants from me, then I’ll know what to do.

His indecision reflects 2 things:

1)  YOUR indecision
2)  YOUR relinquishing of your own power

What is it that YOU want? Does what YOU want align with what HE wants?  If not, bid him farewell.  Set yourself free!

When you ask for love, you have to prepare the ground for that love seed to be planted and to grow.  If you don’t weed the garden first of old loves, old hurts, old relationships, and old trauma, you’re not going to get the healthy love that you want.

Just like you clear out the clutter and clean your apartment before you buy new furniture, you clear out your heart and clean out your energy field before you receive new love.

If your intention is to be IN LOVE in 2012, then I invite you to enroll in the Relationship Ready program that’s been designed specifically to prepare you for love with ease.

In each session, a sacred space will be held for you to release the old and make way for the new.  You will be guided by your spirit guides throughout the process, and you will be given tools to work with at the end of each session…tools which you can use at any time during and after the program is over.

The program is 1-on-1, so it is customized to you and your specific challenges around love, yet everyone who enrolls in the program will get the same number and type of sessions and will make the same investment.

When you enroll in Relationship Ready, you’ll get the following:

- 1 x 25-minute FREE phone consult
-  7 x 75-minute sessions which include:
o   2 Akashic Records readings (sessions #1 and #7) (via skype)
o   5 Belvaspata (healing of the heart) treatments (sessions #2 to #6)

BONUS:
-  2 prayers
o   1 prayer for your relationship with yourself
o   1 prayer to release all past relationships

Start date: January 2012

To ask questions or to discuss the program with me, email me at reem@reemshibel.com to book your 25-minute FREE phone consult.

Intend! Act! Receive!

Wishing you a year of magical love,

The Heart Mentor

What does this mean for you right here, right now?  This means that you can no longer live by the priorities and expectations of your parents, your culture, your religion, and your peers.  You now have to live by YOUR priorities.  Do you know what they are?

When your priorities are in place, you will experience happiness, joy, and flow in all areas of your life.  When you live by the priorities of others, you will experience sadness, lack of motivation, and a feeling of “stuckness” in some or all areas of your life.

There are 2 energy centres in the body concerned with “creation:” the heart and the sacral (sexual) chakras.  You create with the sexual chakra and you receive with the heart.  Without exception, every single client I have worked with this year has had some kind of challenge around “receiving” regardless of whether they came in for love/relationship issues, career/life purpose, health or money.

Tip #1: Your priorities stem from your needs (often the needs that weren’t met in childhood).    

Tip #2: You can’t create the life you actually want from a place of powerlessness.  Take your power back.

Tip #3: You can’t take your power back if you don’t know what your needs and priorities are.

Can you see that you encounter obstacles (resistance) in your life because you’re not clear about what your needs and priorities are?

What I’ve seen often (and I’ve certainly done this myself many times) is someone asking the Universe/God for what they want and then creating a long list of what they DON’T want.  How many times have you done that?  Essentially, what you’re doing when you do this is creating a push and pull dynamic between yourself and the Universe.  You ask for something, and then you push it away.  This doesn’t get you anywhere as you’ve already discovered.

When you ask the Universe/God for something, you have to be WILLING to receive it in a form that looks different from what you’ve imagined.  Your UNWILLINGNESS to be flexible ties the hands of the Universe/God and then you get what you don’t want.

Are you one of the many women (or men) who asks for “marriage” when what you really want is “love”? 

Do you get focused on having “children” when what you really want is “to nurture”?

Creating a relationship is very much like creating a baby.  You get a desire in your heart to have a baby.  Then you take the necessary action to conceive the baby.  That’s followed by months and months of feeding, caring, and nurturing yourself and your baby.  During this whole process, you go through physical and emotional changes that are sometimes challenging.   You learn to adapt to doing things in different ways because of your physical changes.  You adjust your sleeping positions and patterns because that’s what it takes.  You visit the doctor regularly to ensure the healthy development of your baby.  You eat healthy food and avoid junk food.  So on and so forth…

Your relationship requires all of this and more.  How much of the above are you doing for your relationship?

Are you giving a new relationship room to grow and expand as it needs, or are you placing rigid boundaries around it that are suffocating it?

When a new relationship shows up in your life, which of your fears surface?  Do you seek to understand where these fears stem from, or do you repress them hoping they’ll go away?

Tip #4: Answers dismpower and questions empower.  When you don’t like what you see, ask the Universe/God a question.  Don’t make statements that affirm what you don’t like or don’t want.  Ask “how can I change this?” or “how did I create this?”

You can’t have a new relationship until you release the existing one or the previous one.

You can’t have love until you release fear, anger, and resentment.

You can’t have flow in your life until you release the resistance.

You’re not likely to get yourself unstuck on your own because you can’t THINK yourself out of it.  If you could, you would’ve done it by now.  The energy in your body and in your heart needs to move for change to show up in your life.

To learn more, download your complimentary  here.

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Much love to you,

The Heart Mentor

You often say that you want love, but your energetic vibration is saying something else.  You’re in this cycle of asking for love and then saying that you don’t want it.  Energetically, this is like knocking on a door and then running away before someone opens the door.  Knock and run; knock and run; knock and run leads to NO RELATIONSHIP!

Before you jump up and tell me that you’re not refusing the energy of love, I’d like you to answer this question honestly: When was the last time you were in a healthy, long-term relationship? If it’s been a while, then you’re likely refusing the energy of love.  And that’s perfectly okay as long as you know that you’re doing that.  If you’re not ready for love, then you’re not ready for love.  If you need a break, then you need a break.  If you’ve given up on finding love, then you’ve given up on finding love.

Would you like to “feel” ready for love?

Would you like to be over that break from love?

Would you like to re-ignite your passion for your search for love?

At any given point in time, you’re either in a state of allowing or in a state of resistance.  You’re either allowing love to flow to you, or you’re refusing the flow of love towards you. Allowing the energy of love means that you’re “willing” to receive the attention, admiration, and date invitations from those men or women who want to give you that energy regardless of whether it’s what you want or not.  Wait! Let me explain this.  Allowing the energy means receiving it and then choosing whether to keep it in your life or let it pass through your life and on to someone else.  Allowing love means suspending judgment of the person who is showing interest in you.  Allowing love means believing that you’re lovable and desirable regardless of your shape and size.

Allowing love means being willing to go out on dates and explore the possibilities of a relationship.  Allowing love means getting out of your head and stepping into your heart because love cannot be attracted or found with the head.  It’s PURELY an affair of the heart. Choosing who to be in a relationship with and/or who to marry is a matter for the head.

“The worst prison would be a closed heart.” ~ Pope John Paul II

Your search for love ALWAYS begins WITHIN!  What is it that you truly want? What makes you happy? Are you happy on your own?  If you’re unhappy on your own, a relationship isn’t going to make you happy.  You can’t hand this responsibility over to anyone else.  It’s ALL YOURS!  Find your happiness, and love will find you.  Find your worthiness, and worthy men will chase you.

So, let’s look at what stops you from receiving the energy of love.  There are many things…

1. Love wounds
2. Conclusions
3. Judgments 
4. Assumptions
5. Experiences
6. Thoughts
7. Beliefs
8. Feelings
9. Secret Agendas
10. Secret Agreements
11. Fantasies

This is a long list, isn’t it?

Did you know that 90 – 98% of your thoughts, beliefs, and feelings do NOT belong to YOU?

This is why you’re struggling with love and why continuing to search for love without clearing out these blocks is pretty much a waste of your time and energy.  You’re fighting with yourself.  This is why you feel conflicted about love and relationships.  Essentially, you’re trying to attract love and create a relationship from other people’s ideas, beliefs, judgments, conclusions, agendas, agreements, and fantasies—all of which you’ve unconsciously adopted as your own. 

If you’re ready for a different way of attracting love and showing up in relationships, then this powerful mini-program is for YOU.

Letting Go of the Past to Make Room for a New Relationship with Ease and Joy

You’ll have a new energy around love and relationships in 4 short weeks. Intrigued? Curious? Ready? Click here for program details, FAQs, and investment.

To book your FREE 15-minute, no-obligation, phone consult, email me at reem@reemshibel.com.

Much love to you,

The Heart Mentor

There are 3 simple steps to attracting a soulmate relationship.

Step 1: Know Yourself!

Look within and understand your essence.  You cannot ask for a relationship if you don’t truly understand your inner workings.  I’m not talking about the ideas, values, or beliefs that you were raised with.  These appeal to your ego, and your soulmate does not speak to your ego.  I’m talking about the true desires of your soul.  Your soulmate will be a reflection of your essence, and if you don’t know what your essence is all about, then you’re not going to recognize your soulmate when he/she shows up in your life.  The reason I’m saying this is that when you don’t know your soul’s true desires, there’s a good chance that you may dismiss your soulmate when he/she shows up because you might get hung up on his/her “resume” or “looks/physique.”  These are important to your ego, not to your soul.

Step 2:  Know Your Wounds! 

Know what your love wounds are.  Your love wounds are the wounds inflicted on you as a child by your primary caretakers (usually the parents), and these wounds are literally “unmet needs” which over time turn into “fears and limiting beliefs” which I refer to as “money wounds.” [Isn’t it interesting how everything is interconnected?]

Your wounds may be well-hidden; however, there are 2 easy ways to identify them.  One way is to be conscious of what you criticize in others, or what annoys you or angers you about others (these are triggers and triggers come from wounds).  Although there may be exceptions, what you criticize in others is usually something you don’t like about yourself, and that’s a wound.

Let’s say you meet someone who appears to be selfish.  Stop and ask yourself “in what way am I selfish, or in what way have I disowned the selfish aspect of myself?” Think about whether you’ve gone to the other end of the spectrum and adopted the “martyr” persona.

The second way to identify love wounds is to notice the patterns that show up in your relationships and your life.  For example, if you’re constantly attracting men or women who lie to you or cheat on you, then in some way (or on some level) you’re lying to or cheating on yourself.  Another example is the pattern of attracting emotionally unavailable men or women.  Be honest with yourself: In what way are you emotionally unavailable?  Are you still pining for a past love, or is your heart closed?  Emotional unavailability is a sure sign of a closed heart in you and in the people you’re attracting.

Step 3:  Heal Your Wounds!

The keys to everything in your life, be it happiness, wealth, excellence, or anything else lies within you and your wounds.  Wounds are simply opportunities for you to learn, grow and evolve as a soul.  They magnetize people and situations that will provide you with the opportunity to heal.  Ignoring your wounds and by extension your patterns, isn’t going to make them go away.  In fact, ignoring them keeps you stuck in your patterns indefinitely which means that you’ll keep getting the same results that you’re getting now.

Are you feeling stuck?  Do you need answers?  The best place to start is the .  It consists of a background on love wounds, a 25-question assessment of how you’re showing up in relationships, the benefits of having your healed heart, and how you can go about having your heart healed.  To download the assessment, click here.

Much love to you,

The Heart Mentor

A Divine gift is just that “a gift.”  If you don’t use it, you’re pretty much returning it to the giver and saying “No, thanks!”  Your gift is here to serve YOU and to help you CONTRIBUTE to others and to the world around you, but if you don’t use it, neither of these things is going to happen.

Why would anyone shut down a gift?  There are many reasons for this, and here are a few of them:

-  Being surrounded by family members and friends who don’t recognize or appreciate your gift, or who criticize and judge your gift

-  Being afraid of the power of your gift especially when you’re psychic or have visions

-  Not knowing what to do with your gift or how to manage it in the practical world

-  Not being ready for your gift

-  Being afraid of being different & just wanting to fit in and be like everyone else

Keeping a Divine gift shut down begins to feel like misalignment at some point, and especially now with the energies of 2012 ushering in a New World.  There’s a massive awakening on the planet, and more and more people are awakening AND embracing their gifts and building more meaningful businesses and lives around these gifts.

And this is really the missing piece for a lot of people…feeling like there’s something more to their life and to their existence.  This is often a nudge that the world needs YOU and YOUR GIFT NOW.  If you’ve been tapped on the shoulder, your time has come, and this may result in the following:

-  A job loss

-  The dissolution of a relationship (i.e. a divorce or breakup)

-  A move from one city or country to another

-  A loss of interest in old ways of doing things

-  A hunger to learn more about specific topics

-  Seeking answers to your questions

-  Looking for more meaning in your life

and the list goes on…

It doesn’t matter how the change shows up for you.  What matters is that you ALLOW the change and understand it for what it is regardless of how difficult and/or painful it is.

Want to learn more about how to awaken your Divine gifts?  Click here.

Much love to you,

The Heart Mentor

Here’s what I’ve learned from being a people pleaser/doormat…

-  When you put others ahead of yourself ALL THE TIME, you end up being angry, resentful, and quite simply fatigued.  This often leads to emotional eating to make yourself feel better, emotionally, and more energized, physically.

-  Giving to others before you give to yourself does not come from a place of love.  It comes from obligation/duty or unworthiness or both.  In other words, it comes from the belief and the feeling that you don’t matter.  When you give to others from an energy of “I don’t matter,” what you’re telling them is that they don’t matter either because you can’t give what you don’t have.

-  Others LEARN to take advantage of you because, hey, they push your boundaries just to see how much they can get away with….it’s fun for them…not so much for you.

-  Thinking that it’s your job to save everyone including your neighbors, their relatives, and the bus driver’s dog is a ridiculous burden to carry around and takes away from how meaningful your life can actually be.  No one appointed you savior of the world, so just drop that title already!

Here’s the thing.  When you’re used to being a people pleaser/doormat in your daily life, this is how you show up in romantic relationships.  I can tell you with 100% certainty that this is a huge turn off for men.  A man (i.e. a man who will honour you) wants to be with a Love Goddess, and a Love Goddess is a woman who is able to say NO from a place of love because she has learned to love herself (not in a narcissistic way) but in a “I am worthy” kind of way.  A Love Goddess attends to her needs and her dreams first because once she’s happy and fulfilled, she has so much more to give to others.

You might be thinking that you’re a savvy and successful woman and that you’re absolutely NOT a people pleaser/doormat.  Yes! I thought so too.  However, if you’re like most savvy and successful women, you’re now in this “I can/have to fix everything mode.”  You’ve forgotten how to receive and allow others to give to you.  Running around fixing everything for everyone is people pleasing.  You might think of yourself as strong and powerful, yet the energy and the emotions behind fixing and pleasing are not those of strength and power.  They are the energies of fear and weakness—fear of not being taken seriously, fear of being taken advantage of, fear of being powerless, fear of losing control (Hello, Control Freak!).  Strength and power are states of being—inner states of emotion that you either feel or don’t feel.  No one can give them to you or take them away from you.  Only YOU can choose whether or not to step into them and feel them.

So, my dear people pleaser/doormat, if you’re serious about attracting that love relationship you’ve been hoping for for so long, it’s time to transform your relationship with yourself FIRST because HE is going to be a reflection of YOU.  Become the Love Goddess so that you can attract that Love God you so deserve.

If you’re ready to become a Love Goddess, this free is for YOU.  Click here to download it.

Much love to you,

The Heart Mentor

Whatever the case may be for you, everyone has some sort of pattern when it comes to love.  This pattern is either working for you or against you.  If you’re sad, grieving, miserable and/or lonely, then your pattern is working against you, and you don’t have to put up with it.

People often talk about breaking patterns and habits; however, the truth is that a pattern or habit is to be released and not broken because “breaking” suggests “resistance” and a “kicking out” of someone or something.  When you resist someone and attempt to kick them out of your life, they will resist and fight back, and this creates pain, anger, and resentment for both of you, and these feelings strengthen the pattern instead of releasing it.

When releasing a pattern, there has to be a willingness to have change show up and for you to do things differently.  Approaching a pattern from a place of willfulness only creates more of what you have because you’re energetically pulsing negative emotions of anger, resentment, or even hate or disgust.

According to Marianne Williamson, relationships are “Divine assignments,” so who you’re attracting into your life is not coincidental.  The pattern in which you attract relationships and the pattern that you have in relationships show up in a certain way for you because there are lessons for you to learn and a depth of emotions to be experienced so that you can grow and evolve on a soul level and on a mortal human level.

Generally speaking, you might find yourself stuck in a particular pattern because you’re either choosing not to learn the lesson or you’re missing the lesson altogether.  For instance, if you’re constantly attracting men or women who don’t want to commit, there’s a part of you that is afraid of commitment and until you address that issue within yourself, your pattern will continue.  The question is how much time do you want to spend on any one pattern that is causing you sadness, grief or misery?

Let me ask you this: What conclusions and judgments have you come up with about men or women from all of the experiences you’ve had so far?

Do you think or believe that…

• all/most men cheat?
• love doesn’t last?
• you have to get married because that’s the way the world works?
• all/most women are mysterious?
• all/most women are manipulative?
• the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t know?

How many of these conclusions and judgments are based on your parent’s relationship? How many are based on the relationships of your friends and colleagues?

And, how many of these conclusions and judgments are based on your own experiences and are preventing you from releasing your particular pattern?

Here are 4 action steps for you to take in releasing your pattern…

1)  Make a list of all the relationships you’ve had and/or all the dates you’ve been on.  Then identify THE MAIN reason why things didn’t work out.  Is there a theme that surfaces?  If there is, that’s your pattern.

2)  Be honest with yourself and acknowledge in what way you’re contributing to that pattern.

3)  Forgive those whom you haven’t forgiven yet including yourself. (PS – Sweeping your feelings under the rug is not forgiveness.  It’s suppression of emotions that leads to volcanic eruptions. )

4)  Ask yourself:  How would my life be different if I could meet someone who is completely aligned with me?  How would I feel?  What would my life look like?  How would my point of view of love be different?

Now, in the physical world, this is not as easy as it sounds because you are conditioned to have certain ideas, beliefs, and feelings about love and relationships, and these ideas, beliefs, and feelings do not shift merely from reading books and articles or from attending seminars/workshops.  They shift from the process of going through the experience, getting awareness about how you’re acting, speaking, and showing up in the relationship, consciously deciding to make a change, and then taking the actions necessary for that change to show up.  This process can be long and tedious when you do it on your own, or it can be much shorter and a lot less painful and frustrating when you receive the energetic, emotional, and spiritual support necessary for you to release the pattern.

So, if you’re sick and tired of being alone and unhappy and are ready for a different type of love relationship to show up for you, and you’re an educated, successful, and passionate woman who is STILL SINGLE, then I recommend that you take this free   to find out what might be getting in your way. Click here to download the assessment.

Much love to you,

The Heart Mentor

For you to attract a loving relationship, maintain an existing relationship, and/or maintain momentum in your life, you need to be able to know when your heart is burdened or overloaded.  There are 8 signs that will help you know that.    

#8 – Shallow breathing – Shallow breathing is the main sign that your heart is filled with fear, and so your breath isn’t able to get past your heart and chest and down into your belly.  It’s important to know when you’re feeling fear because fear is a sign that you’re out of alignment in some way.  The problem is that shallow breathing disconnects you from your guidance, and when you’re feeling fear, the #1 thing that will alleviate that is feeling guided and supported by a much bigger power than yourself, the Universe/God/Source (call it whatever you like).  It is your guidance that will let you know which direction to go in, what actions to take, and which person or relationship is for your highest and greatest good.

#7 – Heaviness in the chest – This feels like a block of stone sitting right on top of your chest.  It’s kind of like the quiet before the storm.   It will inevitably lead to a triggered reaction or lots of crying because it’s a sign that you have emotions that need to be released, yet you are resisting releasing them.

#6 – Fatigue (especially chronic fatigue) – When your heart is full of unprocessed or suppressed emotions, your body will feel heavy.  Fatigue is also a sign that you often absorb other people’s energy, thoughts, and emotions, and THIS is a boundaries issue.

#5 – Frequent outbursts of anger or shouting/screaming – This is an indicator of a heart that is quite simply OVERFLOWING with emotions that have been suppressed for a long time.  The bucket is full, and you’re still pouring water into it.  This is a culmination of longstanding anger, fear and resentment.  When you find yourself in the midst of such outbursts, it is vital that you get the help of an energy healer or therapist because these kinds of outbursts are highly damaging to relationships.

#4 – Uncontrollable crying – This is one of the signs of depression and of an incredibly overwhelmed Inner Child.  Again, the bucket is full and you’re still pouring water into it.  You really, really need to get professional help for this because your adult self has left your Inner Child to cope all on her/his own with an adult relationship or situation.

#3 – Rage – Rage is anger greatly amplified and turned outwards.  Rage has a stronger emotional charge than anger.  It is a sign that someone is completely unable to process and release their emotions.  Anger management is NOT enough because anger management is a band aid.  It teaches you to “manage” your emotions but doesn’t teach you how to process them, nor does it deal with uprooting their underlying causes.  It is very important to seek the help of an energy healer if you are experiencing rage on a regular basis.

#2 – Depression – This is anger turned inwards.  A depressed heart feels joyless, unmotivated, and disinterested.  The physical signs include sleeping long hours, fatigue, crying, overeating (for some people) or not eating enough, isolating oneself from others, and refusing help.  Anti-depressants are a coping mechanism.  They do NOT address the underlying causes of depression, and they become a life-long crutch.  Again, please seek professional help for this because depression is a heavy burden on an existing relationship, and it definitely doesn’t help you in attracting a new one.

#1 – Inability to cry – An inability to cry is by far the biggest indicator of a deeply congested heart that is holding a whole lot of suppressed emotions.  This is a CLOSED heart that CANNOT attract love or be intimate.  An inability to cry is also a sign that you have a very strong “Controller” running your life.  The Controller is one of the sub-personalities of the EGO.  It comes into being early on in your life to help you cope with a chaotic environment.  It’s a great survival mechanism; however, it very much works against you in your adult relationships.  A person with a heart that is full of suppressed emotions comes across as a cold or indifferent person, and neither coldness nor indifference attract or keep love.

Your emotions are your guidance system, and they need to be able to flow with ease and harmony.  They let you know what you’re thinking and how aligned you are with the different aspects of your relationship or relationship search.  Your thoughts give rise to your emotions, and when you find yourself experiencing negative emotions, you know that you’re thinking negative thoughts.  Negative thoughts and emotions affect your ability to show up fully in a relationship, cloud your ability to make decisions about your relationship, and can keep you stuck in a very unproductive or unhealthy place for a long time.  This is why it is important to recognize the signs of a heart that is carrying more negative emotions than it can handle at one time.  Releasing those negative emotions is like opening the doors and windows to air a room.  You let the stale air out and let fresh air in.  The fresh air is uplifting and allows you to love and think with clarity and focus.  It creates movement of air in the room just as releasing suppressed emotions creates movement in your love life.

If any of these 8 signs apply to you, I recommend that you come in for a Learning Path session in which the first root cause of these emotions will be cleared and the negative emotions will be released.  You will get a very clear understanding of what these emotions are, where they come from, and how long you’ve had them.  Within 3-4 days of the session, you’ll feel lighter, mentally clearer, and you’ll find it much easier to make decisions and take action in your love life.

To book your Learning Path session or to ask questions, email me at reem@reemshibel.com.

PS – Sessions can be done in-person or by distance via Skype.  The results are exactly the same.

PSS – The Learning Path is a spiritually guided energy modality that removes energetic blocks and their first root causes thus allowing you to move forward with great ease.  I’ve been working with the Learning Path for 3 years now, and it has done wonders for me and for my clients.  To read more client success stories, go to http://www.reemshibel.com/testimonials. 

Much love and brilliance to you,

Reem

The Heart Mentor

Love is a feeling.  It is abstract and cannot be seen or touched, so it is unusual that we as humans spend so much time looking for it.  We have expressions of love like a kiss or a hug or a sparkly look in someone’s eyes.  We have symbols of love like hearts and red roses and chocolate.  But, love itself, is not tangible.  It is an e-motion (energy in motion).

As a feeling, love gets ignited within our hearts and emanates out into the world.  As energy in motion, it is experienced as a flutter in the heart, goose bumps all over the body, a weakness in the knees, or butterflies in the stomach.

So, if love is a feeling which is something intangible, how do you understand it better?  How do you really get into the depths of what LOVE is?

Well, for starters, there are 5 spiritual principles of love that I’d like to share with you.

1)  You can only love someone as much as you can love yourself.  No two ways about it.

 How much do you love yourself?  A little or a lot? 

How do you show that you love yourself?

2)  You can express your love only as much as you can express yourself, in general. 

How comfortable are you talking about your fears and dreams? 

How well do you communicate with others?

3)  Love cannot be bought or sold.  It can only be given or received.  Now, this sounds obvious, but if you think about it, people attempt to buy love all the time.  They do it through gifts when they’re feeling guilty or want to be forgiven; they do it through bribes.

Are you equally good at giving and receiving?

Do you give more than you receive?

Do you receive more than you give?

Are you unable to give or receive love at all?

4)  You can love another person only to the extent to which your heart is open. 

How open is your heart?  How do you know?

5)  You can only attract what you are energetically vibrating. 

Are you vibrating love or fear? How do you know?

Love is a feeling of expansion in the heart, and fear is a feeling of contraction.  Love and fear cannot exist in the heart at the same time because they are vibrational opposites.  When you’re vibrating at the frequency of love, you appear approachable and open and friendly.  In this state, your energy field is open and welcoming.  And when you’re vibrating at the frequency of fear, you appear unapproachable, closed, and unfriendly.  In this state, your energy field is closed and is repelling others.  You may not be consciously feeling fear in your heart; however, if you’re afraid of getting hurt or rejected, then you’re in a vibration of fear whether you know it or not.  This is just one example of how you can be emitting a vibe of fear without really knowing it.

So, why would someone be vibrating at the frequency of fear?

Stay tuned for the answer in an upcoming blog post.

Much love and brilliance to you,

Reem

The Heart Mentor