What does this mean for you right here, right now? This means that you can no longer live by the priorities and expectations of your parents, your culture, your religion, and your peers. You now have to live by YOUR priorities. Do you know what they are?
When your priorities are in place, you will experience happiness, joy, and flow in all areas of your life. When you live by the priorities of others, you will experience sadness, lack of motivation, and a feeling of “stuckness” in some or all areas of your life.
There are 2 energy centres in the body concerned with “creation:” the heart and the sacral (sexual) chakras. You create with the sexual chakra and you receive with the heart. Without exception, every single client I have worked with this year has had some kind of challenge around “receiving” regardless of whether they came in for love/relationship issues, career/life purpose, health or money.
Tip #1: Your priorities stem from your needs (often the needs that weren’t met in childhood).
Tip #2: You can’t create the life you actually want from a place of powerlessness. Take your power back.
Tip #3: You can’t take your power back if you don’t know what your needs and priorities are.
Can you see that you encounter obstacles (resistance) in your life because you’re not clear about what your needs and priorities are?
What I’ve seen often (and I’ve certainly done this myself many times) is someone asking the Universe/God for what they want and then creating a long list of what they DON’T want. How many times have you done that? Essentially, what you’re doing when you do this is creating a push and pull dynamic between yourself and the Universe. You ask for something, and then you push it away. This doesn’t get you anywhere as you’ve already discovered.
When you ask the Universe/God for something, you have to be WILLING to receive it in a form that looks different from what you’ve imagined. Your UNWILLINGNESS to be flexible ties the hands of the Universe/God and then you get what you don’t want.
Are you one of the many women (or men) who asks for “marriage” when what you really want is “love”?
Do you get focused on having “children” when what you really want is “to nurture”?
Creating a relationship is very much like creating a baby. You get a desire in your heart to have a baby. Then you take the necessary action to conceive the baby. That’s followed by months and months of feeding, caring, and nurturing yourself and your baby. During this whole process, you go through physical and emotional changes that are sometimes challenging. You learn to adapt to doing things in different ways because of your physical changes. You adjust your sleeping positions and patterns because that’s what it takes. You visit the doctor regularly to ensure the healthy development of your baby. You eat healthy food and avoid junk food. So on and so forth…
Your relationship requires all of this and more. How much of the above are you doing for your relationship?
Are you giving a new relationship room to grow and expand as it needs, or are you placing rigid boundaries around it that are suffocating it?
When a new relationship shows up in your life, which of your fears surface? Do you seek to understand where these fears stem from, or do you repress them hoping they’ll go away?
Tip #4: Answers dismpower and questions empower. When you don’t like what you see, ask the Universe/God a question. Don’t make statements that affirm what you don’t like or don’t want. Ask “how can I change this?” or “how did I create this?”
You can’t have a new relationship until you release the existing one or the previous one.
You can’t have love until you release fear, anger, and resentment.
You can’t have flow in your life until you release the resistance.
You’re not likely to get yourself unstuck on your own because you can’t THINK yourself out of it. If you could, you would’ve done it by now. The energy in your body and in your heart needs to move for change to show up in your life.
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Much love to you,
The Heart Mentor
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