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A soulmate connection is not a perfect connection, nor is it necessarily a fairy tale kind of connection, but it is a strong connection that runs very deep and cannot be explained by the rational mind.  It speaks to your soul.  Attracting a soulmate is easier for some people than it is for others because we each have different issues to work through in preparation for this soulmate relationship.

There are 3 simple steps to attracting a soulmate relationship.

Step 1: Know Yourself!

Look within and understand your essence.  You cannot ask for a relationship if you don’t truly understand your inner workings.  I’m not talking about the ideas, values, or beliefs that you were raised with.  These appeal to your ego, and your soulmate does not speak to your ego.  I’m talking about the true desires of your soul.  Your soulmate will be a reflection of your essence, and if you don’t know what your essence is all about, then you’re not going to recognize your soulmate when he/she shows up in your life.  The reason I’m saying this is that when you don’t know your soul’s true desires, there’s a good chance that you may dismiss your soulmate when he/she shows up because you might get hung up on his/her “resume” or “looks/physique.”  These are important to your ego, not to your soul.

Step 2:  Know Your Wounds! 

Know what your love wounds are.  Your love wounds are the wounds inflicted on you as a child by your primary caretakers (usually the parents), and these wounds are literally “unmet needs” which over time turn into “fears and limiting beliefs” which I refer to as “money wounds.” [Isn’t it interesting how everything is interconnected?]

Your wounds may be well-hidden; however, there are 2 easy ways to identify them.  One way is to be conscious of what you criticize in others, or what annoys you or angers you about others (these are triggers and triggers come from wounds).  Although there may be exceptions, what you criticize in others is usually something you don’t like about yourself, and that’s a wound.

Let’s say you meet someone who appears to be selfish.  Stop and ask yourself “in what way am I selfish, or in what way have I disowned the selfish aspect of myself?” Think about whether you’ve gone to the other end of the spectrum and adopted the “martyr” persona.

The second way to identify love wounds is to notice the patterns that show up in your relationships and your life.  For example, if you’re constantly attracting men or women who lie to you or cheat on you, then in some way (or on some level) you’re lying to or cheating on yourself.  Another example is the pattern of attracting emotionally unavailable men or women.  Be honest with yourself: In what way are you emotionally unavailable?  Are you still pining for a past love, or is your heart closed?  Emotional unavailability is a sure sign of a closed heart in you and in the people you’re attracting.

Step 3:  Heal Your Wounds!

The keys to everything in your life, be it happiness, wealth, excellence, or anything else lies within you and your wounds.  Wounds are simply opportunities for you to learn, grow and evolve as a soul.  They magnetize people and situations that will provide you with the opportunity to heal.  Ignoring your wounds and by extension your patterns, isn’t going to make them go away.  In fact, ignoring them keeps you stuck in your patterns indefinitely which means that you’ll keep getting the same results that you’re getting now.

Are you feeling stuck?  Do you need answers?  The best place to start is the .  It consists of a background on love wounds, a 25-question assessment of how you’re showing up in relationships, the benefits of having your healed heart, and how you can go about having your heart healed.  To download the assessment, click here.

Much love to you,

The Heart Mentor

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